It's kinda late and I am still awake. I know I still have work tomorrow (later) though. Haha. Okay, just wanna share with you this video that I came across with on YouTube. A short film about the realities and actual metamorphosis of relationships, whether heterosexual or homosexual. I believe we have been in at least one relationship that has gone through these stages:
Stage 1: Meeting - Do you believe in love at first sight? I do. Finding that special someone often happens by accident and if you're lucky enough, you'll meet someone who changes the way your world spins in the most unexpected time and place.
Stage 2: The Chase - It is the best part, as the name implies is the challenge of somewhat running around to please and finally get that someone. During this period, the most observable thing would be the effort. We put in a lot of it in catching up. Love is commonly the force considered to be the fuel that powers one’s efforts.
Stage 3: Honeymoon - The honeymoon phase is actually the best part of a relationship. It is the magical time wherein you and your partner are very much in love with each other. This stage features high level of passionate love: strong emotions, butterflies in the stomach, or heart palpitations.
Stage 4: Comfortable - It is the stage where you could truly be yourselves. It is the very honest and ugly stage of a relationship. Being comfortable with each is not necessary bad though. However, you've gone past the honeymoon stage wherein the romance and constant admiration of one another goes out the window.
Stage 5: Tolerance - "Arguing is one thing but feeling dissatisfied and unhappy with the relationship is another." Since romance and excitement have gone out of the frame, the treatment for each other starts to decline. Lesser time is being dedicated, misunderstandings and arguments occur more often.
Stage 6: Downhill - Arguments don't get solved right away. We take all the pain seriously and difficult to forget. It will take a long time before you realize that your relationship is on this stage, and when you do, it is hard to climb up again.
Stage 7: Breaking up - This. Is. The. Worst. Stage. EVER. This is the stage where, either one or both of you, cannot fight for the relationship anymore. This is the death of the relationship. It is not the stage to struggle for love, those opportunities have long been gone and there's a slim possibility that everything will be restored.
Now, the question is, can we avoid the 7th stage? Of course, yes. In fact, I don't want to reach the 5th stage either. Every relationship goes through stages. Where and how each stage develops is ultimately up to each person. I have learned that a relationship requires so much effort. Making it work is not easy, but if you do, that would be the greatest thing someone could ever have.
Video credits: Wong Fu Productions, ("Strangers, Again")
